Not Seeking Anonymity

Last night I watched Sex Bloggers, because a girl who's blog I read was in it. Believe it or not, I had no idea of the hype around Abby/Zoe when I found her blog a few months ago. I just liked the honesty in it, plus I like to read about sex. It was only over the months since finding the blog that I learned all about her book, her outing and the consequences of that.

But that's by the bye cos that's not what I wanted to talk about. What I did want to talk about was anonymity. In the Blogging world, anonymity is a frequent visitor. A lot of people write behind a pseudonym. On the programme last night all of the sex bloggers didn't use their real names or show their faces, all except for Abby/Zoe. I can kind of see why they'd want to hide their identity. Not because they're embarrassed by what they do (I doubt very many of us women who enjoy sex are embarrassed by that fact, but the media do like to say we are) but because to have the sex they enjoy they need to not have their face/name/life known - notoriety doesn't get you laid when the person you're trying to sleep with knows they'll be on the internet come morning. So I see why those bloggers would hide their real names. But why do other people do it? And why have I never done it?

Actually, that's a lie. I did once. I opened a blog, I wrote in it but didn't sign my name at the end of the posts and had no personal information about myself on the site. But it just wasn't for me. I'm not embarrassed about what I write, I'm not trying to hide from people. It probably helps that I'm a very honest person - online and off - so there really was no need to hide my true self.

My last blog was popular amongst horny females and gay men because I used to post a lot of pictures/entries about boy-love. It helped a lot that I became enthralled with the Antony and Craig relationship on Big Brother 6. BB fans like to read BB stuff - even stuff about boy love ;) I was never anonymous but I didn't keep archives. More due to the fact that I had a thing going on in my personal life that if it had worked out then my blog might have got me into trouble. It didn't work out. I met Ray instead and fell in love. It was, and still is, all very normal. Just what I needed.

Which is where this blog came from. Summer last year I missed the blog (I shut down my boy-obsessed blog in April time of 2006). I honestly hadn't thought I'd open another one but I just missed it. So I opened one that was closed off to the public, except for people I knew. From there it grew to what it is now, which is probably less personal but it means I meet more people and get to have more fun with the posts. I think because the blog was opened with the intention of people I know in "real life" reading it, the thought of anonymity never once crossed my mind. Even when I opened it up to the world wide web I didn't think to change my name. People in "real life" have always read my blogs. Because for me the blog is an extension of my writing. It's a form of writing I really enjoy. It's not as personal as my diary but it's sort of like a day-to-day auto-biography, which I've always loved reading.

So that's where this blog came from. Not from the urge to be anonymous but to share my life's fun, sadness, excitement, dread - and all the other emotions - with the people in my "real life" who don't live near me (which is pretty much everyone I'm close to ;D) and so don't see me day to day. I just wonder how many other bloggers out there opened their blogs for the same reason. And just how many blogs I read where the authors use their real names?

In other news: I didn't get the house I really liked :/ That was really sad. But we've gone looking for new houses and have three set up to view this week! We're starting tonight :)

Labels: blogging, life, love, moving out, ray

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